A letter to my son

My aunt share this article that was forwarded to her by a friend.
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"Michael Leung is a renowned radio personality in Hong Kong. He is also a child psychologist.
This is a letter that Michael Leung had written to his son.

My son,
I’m writing this memo to you based on three principles:

1. Life is unpredictable. No one knows how much longer we can live. So it’s better that I talk to you about certain important things now.
2. I am your father. If I don’t talk to you about these important truths of life, I’m afraid no one else will.
3. Every thought here is derived from my own excruciating failures. It is meant to help you grow without having to learn it the hard way.

1. Don’t be too worried about those who haven’t been good to you. No one is obligated to treat you well, besides your mom and I. As for those who are kind to you, cherish them, be grateful, but also beware of them. This is because everyone does everything for a reason. If someone is good to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he or she truly likes you. You need to be able to see beyond that. There’s no need to treat he or she as your true friend in no time.

2. No one is irreplaceable, and nothing is indispensable. With this in mind, one day when you lose your beloved or even all the things that you can’t live without, you would know that that is no big deal.

3. Life is short. Today you might still be wasting away your life, tomorrow you’ll find out that life has already left. So, the earlier you begin seeing life in this light and savoring it, the longer you would be able to enjoy your life. Don’t wish for longevity. Instead, start taking pleasure in your life right now.

4. There is no such thing as the supreme love. Love is at best a fleeting sensation. It will definitely change as time passes, and as your attitude alters. If your so-called beloved has decided to leave, please be patient. Wait. Let the time cleanse your mind, and let the soul sink in a bit. You pain will gradually fade. Don’t hold on to any unrealistic hope for Love’s beauty; neither should you exaggerate the pain when love is gone.

5. Even though many high achievers aren’t highly educated, it doesn’t mean that you are going to succeed without having to study diligently. The knowledge you gain is the weapon in your possession. We human beings can prosper without any support or social networks, but we can’t go anywhere without a tool/weapon in our hands. Keep this in mind!

6. I won’t expect you to provide for me my whole life, and vice versa, I’m not going to provide for you throughout your entire life. When you are grown and become independent, my parental duties are finished. From then on, your outlook in life will solely depend on you--whether you would take the humble bus or drive a beaming Mercedes Benz; whether you would be rich enough to drink the shark fin soup every day, or that you would end up so poor you can only afford the glass noodle. It’s totally your call.

7. You can expect yourself to be faithful to others, but you can’t demand others to be faithful to you. You can treat others with good will, but you can’t expect others to return the favor. How you have been treating others will not necessarily result in their reciprocity. If you can't see this point, you'll be baffled by unnecessary worries. 　

8. I’ve been buying the lottery tickets for nearly twenty years now, but until today I am still poverty-stricken. Not even once had I won the third prize. This proves that if we want to get rich, we can only get there by working diligently. There’s no free lunch in this world.

9. All family members are selected by fate-- once in infinity. No matter how long we can live together in this world, please cherish the time we spend together, for in our next lives, regardless of whether we love or no longer love each other, chances are that we will never see each other again.
Your Dad,

Michael Leung Kai Cheung

What do you regret most?

你有後悔嗎﹖有個雜誌對老人家做了個訪問. 結果。。。
Do you have regrets? Some magazine, did a survey on some senior citizens and the results...

75% 後悔年輕時努力不夠。以至事業無成。
75% regret did not work hard enough when they were young, results in unfruitful career.


70% 後悔年輕時錯誤地選擇了事業。
70% regret they choose the wrong career when they were young.

62% 後悔對對子女教于不句或方法不當。
62% regret did not educate their children enough or use the wrong method.

57% 後悔沒有好好珍惜自己的伴侶。
50% regret they did not appreciate their partners.

49% 後悔鍛鍊身體不足。
49% regret they did not exercise enough.

只有11% 的人後悔沒有賺到更多的錢。
Only 11% regret they did not earn enough money.

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有個人看了這文章就不知所措。我想跟她說

Someone saw this article and became worried and lost. I just want to tell her
“必怕。現在努力吧﹗”
"Don't be afraid. Work hard from now!"
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Want or don't want

Tapir said,

"Things you want, you will never get,
Things you don't want, comes to you."

But Tapir's evil twin said ,

" It can be worse,
When u chase them..they run away"

God is Fair

If a woman is pretty,
She is generally brainless,
If she is pretty and smart then she is short,
If she is pretty, smart and tall, then she has a short life.

God is fair...........

Give and Take

Its important to give and take.......Gives balance and synergy to any thing..........Makes no matter which end you are...everything balances in the end

~~~~~BUT~~~~~~~~
All give no take does not make you a saint..........Creates emotional burden......Too much giving kills...........I feel I owe you too much, too much


~~~~~OR YOU PREFER~~~~~~~
All take but no give, is it taking advantage?......Do you feel lucky to be at the receiving end?......Do you feel happy and blessed?
~~~~REMAIN NEUTRAL~~~~~~
NO give no take, no complications.................No emotional guilt, no blackmail...............All you have is a silent existance................but to suffer all give no take.....................or to be all take no give........
i prefer excile throughout enternity....

Are they really treating you the way you want to be treated? When its something beyond control, you can only wish what goes around comes around